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We’re Up All Night to Get Healthy

I’m perhaps rudely resentful of the people who jump on the fitness bandwagon on January 1. I have my good days and my bad days, but I worked out the whole holiday break. I’ve been trying to be good all year, and although I wasn’t exactly rewarded with coal in my stocking, I haven’t seen a lot of external results. So hey, new gym members: bite me.

However, with that being said, I feel healthier. I’m on a training program to train for a 10k in March, and I’ve been trying to keep up with my yoga – both for strength and for physical therapy reasons.

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Finding my zen

It’s so easy to lose your way on the road to good health. Food is always my downfall, but even exercise ebbs and flows. For a good 6 months last year, I was taking 3+ yoga classes a week and running at least 5 days a week, 3 miles per run. It was an insanely aggressive schedule but I was keeping up with it. My business trip to Aruba derailed me, and I got frustrated with the lack of results I was seeing on my body. Which is really disappointing, because when I fell off the yoga bandwagon, I had just nailed Side Crow – a pose that had always been pretty far out of my grasp. When I returned to regularly doing yoga 3 months later, I could barely do a regular Crow (an easier pose). Rather than seeing Side Crow as something I wanted to achieve again, my negativity got me down: why should I work so hard for something that can so easily slip through my fingers?

I haven’t fully answered that question, but I have noticed something about running… even when you lose your way for a bit, it’s exponentially easier to get back to where you once were. Once you jump the hurdle of the initial, torturous 6 months–where everything hurts at all times, you hate your life, and you wonder if it’s ever going to get easier–suddenly, it is easier. And even when you slack off for 3 weeks and sit on your butt eating potato chips (not something I advise, but I’ve done), you get back outside and still, nothing hurts. Maybe your time is a little shorter. Maybe you can’t go quite as far. But it’s not a tortured struggle. It’s ever so slightly… refreshing.

I’ll never call running fun. I still think those people are lying. But it’s restorative in its own way, and I know I’m doing something good for myself. I have physically re-trained my body to not suffer against physical activity. And for me, that’s a major win.

I know for a lot of people, a 10k is no big deal. But as someone who once struggled to beat a 12 minute mile (a single mile, I note), it will be a massive accomplishment, even if my time is the worst in the group. I am so proud of how far I’ve come and the commitment I’ve shown this last year and a half to consistent exercise.

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On the 3 Day in 2011

I’ve had my slips and falls, but I still adore and find enormous spiritual solace in yoga (shout out to the best studio in the whole world, Tough Love Yoga, and the brilliance of Neda). And even though I fluctuate from running three miles a week to 16 a week (right now, my goal is 12 a week), I have remained dedicated to running.

So my resolution this year isn’t to get healthy. It’s to keep up the work toward good health, stick with it, and remember that at long intervals… it gets easier. It gets better. It even gets… let’s go with tolerable.

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Update on The List

Even though this blog is a bit of a dumping ground for all my musings, I thought it was high time for an update on The List. Let’s review, shall we?

PHYSICAL AND MENTAL HEALTH

30. Climb a mountain.

29. Run a 10k.

I’m actually training for this now – I plan to run one in March. I haven’t decided which one I’ll do, but I can successfully complete 6.2 miles – it’s just my time that I need to substantially improve. I’m on a self-designed program that includes running 12 miles, plus one stretch yoga and one active yoga class, per week for the next 12 weeks. If I meet my goals, I award myself a fancy handbag. Because, of course, the satisfaction of fitness isn’t enough.

28. Nail a handstand in yoga.

Still working on this one.

27. Get spiritual.

I haven’t even broached this one yet. 

 

EDUCATION

26. Learn a language.

I plan to take a Spanish Level II class from Jan-March. Wish me luck!

25. Master a skill.

24. Read some books that actually mean something.

The last book I read was “Drinking and Tweeting” by Brandi Glanville. That gives you some semblance of where this goal lies at the moment.

23. Develop some knowledge about cars.

 

TRAVEL

22. Visit Thailand.

21. Take a trip with my Dad.

I’m looking forward to taking my dad to Ecuador this May. Giving him that gift was one of the highlights of my year! Merry Christmas.

20. See a Wonder of the World.

19. Take a cross-country road trip with Brandon.

We hope to do this in 2014.

 

LIFE CHANGES

18. Volunteer regularly somewhere for at least 6 months.

I should really get on this one!

17. Turn off the T.V. for a week.

You’d think this one would have been easy to knock out. I think it will be one of my hardest challenges.

16. Finish my book.

Still struggling with this one, but working on getting re-inspired.

 

MONEY MATTERS

15. Invest in 5 diversified stocks.

14. Build retirement fund.

13. Own a second home.

 

No progress on these. Perhaps because all my money’s been going to the other goals? Yes, let’s go with that. 🙂

 

EVOLVE MY RELATIONSHIPS

12. Get closer with my sister.

11. Go on a walk at least once a week with Brandon.

We’ve been doing this somewhat regularly, but we need to get better about it. I can’t wait until his freelance project is done.

10. Try something more sexually adventurous than usual.

TBD. And I probably won’t announce if/when I accomplish this goal.

9. Be a good in-law.

I think I was a great in-law over Christmas, but birthday season’s a-coming!

8. Send a real letter to a friend every month for a year.

I am really proud of how I’ve done with this goal. 4 months down, 8 to go!

 

TEST MY LIMITS

7. Zip line.

Complete!

6. Participate in a big cultural event like a music festival or Oktoberfest.

I forgot this was on here! I can’t wait to do that.

5. Swim with a shark. Or at least sting rays.

4. Learn to surf. Or at least try.

3. Be personally responsible for winning a big piece of business.

It’s really hard to be “personally” responsible for this, because I work with a great team. But I am confident that one of the recent pieces of business we’ve won was largely a direct result of my efforts… we all share the victory on all business!

2. Perform in a play or musical.

I’m hoping to take an improv class at Dad’s Garage next year and maybe that will lead to a live performance. Baby steps!

 

PERSONAL SATISFACTION

1. Learn to be happy just as I am.

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Quit Knocking My Neighborhood

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I live in what’s called a “transitional” neighborhood. There are a lot of nice spins for the phrase, but ultimately, for most people, it translates to “bad neighborhood that we’re crossing our fingers for.”

In the two years I’ve lived in the Old Fourth Ward, I’ve heard people be as blunt to tell me, to my face, that I live in a rough neighborhood, and to watch out. I’ve also heard them pepper it with a kinder bent, suggesting gently that I not leave the house after dark or park my car on the street.

Brandon and I knew what we were doing when we selected our home; we didn’t “end up” in our neighborhood by an unfortunate train of circumstances. We sought an investment opportunity inside the perimeter – a place with lots of potential that was close to everything we loved.

We didn’t move in blind. We recognized that for the first few years we were here, we’d have to be extra cognizant of anything we left in our cars. We’d need a solid alarm system. It played a large role in our decision to get a more intimidating-looking dog (Bear). We bought hard-core locks for the doors and, despite its ugly appearance, kept the steel door in the basement. I am the proud owner of pepper spray.

All of these preparatory behaviors are things people must do when living in an urban, transitional environment – including anywhere in New York City. They aren’t all necessarily things we’d do if we lived in Roswell, but that’s not where we wanted to live. We chose this place.

I could go into detail for days about the frustrations I’ve had with home ownership. The seemingly insurmountable and constant fixes, the yardwork, the traffic from Buckhead. But I wouldn’t count my neighborhood even in the top 10 challenges.

Brandon and I carefully weighed our options when buying our first home. We didn’t buy a house several times the price of this one, even though we could have afforded it, because we wanted to be able to still live comfortably even if one of us was out of work.

We didn’t purchase a home in Buckhead, even though it’s closer to my office, because we don’t like the scene there.

We didn’t purchase a house that was even close to our top price limit because there were better opportunities to as much as double our money in a neighborhood that wasn’t already established.

And we chose to live in a neighborhood full of diverse colors and cultures because we don’t like living in a homogenous community. Shocking!

We’ve faced our share of challenges in the Old Fourth Ward. I don’t hide the fact that I was mugged on Edgewood, or that we’ve had things stolen off our porch. I can’t justify the opportunistic crime that happens when people leave their doors or cars unlocked.

But Brandon and I expected some of these things to happen, and rather than hate the neighborhood we chose, I hate the perpetrators who continue to give our ‘hood a bad name. I can already see changes starting to happen, but we fully anticipated a 5+ year turnaround time, and I’m tired of people implying that because crime hasn’t stalled overnight that we made a bad decision.

In no other in-town neighborhood could I find a beautiful 1920s house with so much history, hardwood floors, and fenced yard space.

In no other in-town neighborhood could I find such an affordable property that’s still in walking distance from Little 5, Downtown, Edgewood, and Poncey Highlands. On a weekend, my drive to Buckhead could be 15 minutes and Atlantic Station is consistently less than a 10-minute drive in almost any traffic.

The Beltline is one of Alice’s favorite spots to run, with a close second being the Freedom Park trail. And half a block away on the Freedom Parkway bridge, we get one of the most incredible skyline views available in Atlanta – as verified by countless Atlanta-based shows that film from that bridge.

I am so proud to live in the Old Fourth Ward and be one of the pioneers that will revitalize this community, despite some of its challenges. To me, “transitional” means the neighborhood is evolving in a positive way, and I’d much rather be in that position than in a house consuming a third of our net income in Buckhead or East Cobb. Maybe one day, when we have kids, we’ll move to the ‘burbs, but I hope and anticipate that when we’ll do, we’ll move there with pockets lined with the fruits of our investment, and many more positive memories of O4W than negative.

So don’t do me any favors and offer a pitying look when I tell you where I live. I chose this community, warts and all, and I love living here. Enjoy your homogenous Ivory Tower and the stretched budget that comes with it. I’ll be here in the ghetto, counting my blessings.

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Travel Blog 10/27-10/27 – Arenal

I am aboard the flight to Bocas del Toro, it’s 6am, and I’ve had two Smirnoffs. Brandon has had tres. It’s one of the more terrifying experiences we’ve both had: tiny propeller plane filled with literally 8 people total. I guess this is how the celebrities travel. I’m not sure whether it’s the extra alcohol or the unbridled heroism, but Brandon has been comforting me. Pequeno aeroplane, he says jokingly, offering me the camera. No bueno. There’s safety information in the seatback pocket that none of the passengers have read. I think there’s a silent understanding that if this thing goes down, we all go with it. Ah, perfect: over the mountains we go.

The last few days have been harried but incredible. We visited Sergio uno mas time before we departed Monteverde (the night prior we went to Sabor Tico, the most authentic restaurant we could find, and then stopped by a bar for tequila on the way back–I was asked to dance by a local and declined, something I actually regret). Sergio recommended that we travel to Arenal, where he not only drew us three detailed maps of places to try, he checked availiability at a hotel where he had connections and ensured we’d be taken care of.

The journey to Arenal took about 4 hours, although if we’d been able to drive through the Cloud Forest, it would have been about 15km. Arenal was breathtaking: an active but not erupting volcano towering over the town of La Fortuna. We arrived at Luigi’s Hotel at about 2pm and checked in at a rate of only $30 for the evening – a great price for a place with such a beautiful view, a pool, and moderately comfortable accommodations. We took a quick nap and before the rain and dark hit, we decided to hit up one of Sergio’s recommended spots: a local Hot Springs.

We followed the cars to park near the Springs and clambored down rough terrain in flip flops until we hit the Springs. We were “greeted” by about 20 Ticos who were open to us being there, but slightly suspicious. I’d asked Sergio earlier, jokingly, if I could pass for a local to get better rates on attractions, and he said that of the two of us, I’d have the best chance… until I opened my mouth.

The Springs were breathtaking – there’s not even a better word for it, but if there was one, that’s what they’d be. Naturally warm, of course, but set in the middle of the jungle under a beautiful canopy. We enjoyed the Springs for a good half hour before the rain started, which made the experience even more magical. The rain lightly christened us while we rested in nature’s hot tub – the trees providing a gentle protectant from the worst of it, but the Spring keeping us warm. As the locals did, we enjoyed the rain droplets and the experience that much more, given the inclement weather. Sure beats napping at the hotel.

We got pizza that night (it seems to be everywhere, oddly, so we thought we’d give it a shot and take a break from arroz y frijoles), which was decent. The next morning, on the way to Sergio’s recommended lava trail, we stopped by the Springs again for some pictures (we didn’t feel right taking them while the locals were there), which was fun. It was only us, clamboring up and down the rocks for photos – Brandon and I both agreed, “It’s like rock climbing without the harness: don’t look down!”

We hit the 1968 lava flow trail by 8:30am and paid $20 total to enter – a total bargain. We saw a Coati wandering up as we paid, something we’d seen on the drive over and assumed, stupidly, was a rare occurrence.

“What the hell is that thing?” Brandon had asked.

“It looks like a cross between a monkey and a raccoon,” I said.

All of the coatis we saw were people-friendly, at least for wild animals. One even stood up and begged for food from passing cars. The guy who greeted us at the entrance of the trail wandered a couple of feet away from us, gave us a stare, and decided we didn’t have any lunch to steal.

The trail was challenging, at least for us Atlanta folk. It began on grass and quickly transitioned into rocky terrain that would be deadly if we fell in any given direction. I stupidly wore a sweater attached to a tank top, as I knew I couldn’t wear it in Panama. After about 2 miles of hiking and 4 buckets of sweat, I stripped it clean and stood on the trail in my bra.

“Not the best idea in the jungle,” Brandon said. “But I’m okay with it.”

I re-positioned my clothes so the sleeves were tied around my back and we continued our journey another mile or so to the summit. Totally worth it: Arenal was closer than ever, and an unbelievable view of the lake was waiting to greet us. We desceneded the mountain in record time, keeping an eye out for the snakes Sergio had warned us about. On the ascent, we had seen another tribe of monkeys, this time howlers (last time white-faced capuchins), which was a fun treat as well. We were glad we’d taken the longer trail, as hot as it was.

We headed back to San Jose after checking out of the hotel and, forgetting to fuel up before leaving town, had a long trek through jungle-y mountains hoping we wouldn’t run out of gasoilina.

“8.5km, 8.4km, 8.3km,” I recited, watching the GPS for the next time we’d reach civilization. Brandon would be putting the car in neutral many times before we reached the gas station, but we somehow made it by the skin of our teeth.

We dropped the rental car off and were deposited at the Courtyard near Juan Santamaria airport, which was a nice refresher from the norm of hotels. We felt for a moment like we were back in America: comfy beds, air conditioning, and $12 sandwiches. We also discovered they had free laundry facilities: HURRAY!!!

We were hungry but tired, so we walked to the Wal Mart next door, bought a couple t-shirts, and ate at the cafe there. Clearly, no English was spoken, so there was a lot of miming happening, but it was relatively tasty food, and about an $8 lunch for both of us. No complaints. The Wal Mart was spectaular…ly similar to American Wal Marts: it’s like we’d hit the epicenter of Americana near San Jose. Appropriate, being near the airport.

I fell asleep at about 6:30pm and awoke at 3am for our 6:30 flight. Not a bad night’s sleep for such an early flight, so we had a nice chance to rest up before this terrifying experience. More to come, hopefully, in Bocas. Buenos dias!

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Travel Blog 10/23-10/27 – Zip Lining Crossed Off the List!

I like to keep blogs while I travel, if only for my own amusement. Some people might find it annoying to keep up with, but I like reminiscing down the road, and writing is relaxing.

This all loosely relates to my bucket list in that, on my vacation to Costa Rica and Panama, I’ve zip lined! With no further ado, I offer my first blog entry of the trip, covering Brandon’s and my time in San Jose and Monteverde, Costa Rica. By the way, WordPress seems to have some sort of ethical issue with allowing me to post images WITHIN my blog, so deal with it.

It’s been a whirlwind few days. Brandon and I arrived in San Jose on Wednesday mid-day, after a journey that started at about 4am. It was worth the early start, though, because we had time to navigate the car rental situation and get to our hotel before the heavy rain hit. The weather in Costa Rica this season begins with a beautiful morning and tends to end in a bit of a rainy afternoon, so we’ve been trying to plan accordingly.

We ended up driving all around the San Jose suburbs (mainly Heredia) for a good hour before we found our hotel for the night, but once we got there, it was in a nice enclave of town, on a quiet street. We planned that evening solely to get some rest for the big treks ahead. We ate dinner at a coffee shop (note to self: Costa Rica isn’t that much cheaper for food than the U.S. Is) and hit the hay early. We awoke to a delicious breakfast of fresh papaya and pineapple, followed by homemade English muffins from our French host. A nice way to kick off a drive to Monteverde.

The drive to Monteverde was arduous and terrifying, to say the least. We’ve never been on such a rocky, hole-filled road up a mountain, with no guardrails and barely enough room for one vehicle, much less two. At one point, a small semi truck passed us just as we were coming across a washed out area of road – Brandon, the braver of us in such situations, told me later he thought there was a 10% chance we would go right off the mountain. Add the afternoon rain to the equation and we got to the Monteverde Villa Lodge pretty worn out and white-knuckled.

The Lodge is quaint and the hosts are incredibly sweet people. They’ve made tour arrangements for us and offered us welcome drinks – to make no small mention of the bountiful breakfasts we’ve had full of eggs, rice and beans, cheese, fruit, and plantains. The first day, we were determined to use the afternoon to our advantage, and we took a short walk into town for lunch. More rice and beans, this time with shrimp, and a heaping dose of cilantro. Not my preferred spice; in fact, I think it has a soap-ish flavor, and it’s impossible to pick out or eat around, yet it appears to be in literally everything here. I love a good plantain, though, so I make do. I should have considered these things beforehand.

After lunch, we walked down to the local Frog Pond, where we met a nice dude named Sergio. Sergio immediately whipped out a tarantula the size of my hand and offered it to Brandon to hold. Brandon claimed his camera was so large that he couldn’t support the weight of the spider, so I braved it instead. As it crawled around, Sergio said, “Tarantulas do bite, but this one’s very nice.” Well, great.

Sergio’s English was impeccable; better than many Americans (although that’s not always saying much). When I mentioned we were interested in zip lining but were nervous to try it, he took us out onto his zip lining platform and perched himself atop the guardrail like a bird.

“I used to be afraid of heights, too,” he said. “But I work in trees, literally, so I got over that a while ago.”

We followed Sergio back inside and before he handed us off to our frog guide, he added, “I used to be petrified of sharks as well, but I research those, too, and I once dove with three thousand hammerhead sharks. Ah, Marvin will show you around the frog pond now.”

Marvin spoke very little English and, while sweet and knowledgable, demanded, “Come here now” at every habitat. Periodically, he would ask, “How do you say xyz in English?” and then look at us expectantly, assuming we knew what he was referring to. We liked him. Partway through the tour, Sergio reappeared to show off a lizard he’d caught. He opened its flap beneath the chin as the lizard tried to bite him, and he told us about how males and females react to different stimuli.

After the weird afternoon at the frog pond, we booked a night tour with a local place that picked us up and dropped us off. The tour was amazing – we saw a viper wrapped around a tree (PETRIFYING), more tarantulas, sloths in a few different places, various insects, and some beautiful butterflies. Our guide took us on one of the most breathless tours I’ve ever experienced: he regularly almost lost people in his group because he was running so quickly through the jungle. Don’t worry, though: he told us in the beginning that we’d better keep up because nobody was coming to look for us.

After that feat of endurance, we had dinner at a nice local place. Afraid of cilantro, I was a lame American and ordered pasta, determined that this would be the only time I’d stray from local flavors while I was here.

Yesterday, we decided that if we were going to zip line, we were going to do it all the way. We booked a trip out to Selvatura, which is a major zip line and hanging bridge reserve area in Monteverde. The bus picked us up in the morning and off we went, again, white-knuckling it in a van up a steep mountain. Before Brandon and I had time for second thoughts, we were in zip lining gear and trekking up more mountain to board the first platform. Balanced on the stairs leading up to the guardrail-less platform, I noticed Brandon’s hand shaking. I was frankly surprised he’d made it that far: a man once afraid of boarding a flight to Dallas had not only flown to Costa Rica (sober), he was now about to sail through the jungle attached to a thin cord. But I wasn’t going to say anything.

Soon enough, Brandon was first at bat, and off he went like a harnessed bullet, soaring through the trees and arriving on the next platform in one piece. I awaited my turn, dangling my feet over the edge as the guide held me back. Just before he let me go, he asked, “Is this your first time?” I nodded. He replied, “Mine too.” ZOOM! The first three platforms were a blur.

We boarded one, then another, then another in rapid succession, ending on the fourth platform while the guides repositioned themselves for what appeared to be a 600-mile long zipline over roughly seven million feet in the air. (It was actually, truly, 1km long.) Brandon looked nervous. “Are you okay?” I asked, patting his shoulder. He glared at me like I’d just thrown his baby off the platform. Message received.

We continued onto another 4 lines or so until we hit the Tarzan Swing, which was not happening for either of us.

“I’ll see how terrified the other people are before I decide if I’ll do it,” I told someone else.

The first guy dropped off the edge of the platform, dangling only from a rope, and swung into the forest over a cliff, back and forth, screaming like a child.

“Yep, not doing that,” the other person and I agreed.

Four more ziplines followed, and Brandon asked the guides each time how many were left. On the last one, he arrived victorious but stoic, unwilling to take video, angry at me, but proud of himself. I resent the combo, but he got over it. Note that I’ve put it in writing that I didn’t force anything!

Brandon had had enough of heights for the day, so I took a journey through the hanging bridges and forest by myself. Those were terrifying in and of themselves, swinging from side to side, creaking, hundreds of feet in the air. The views, however, were breathtaking, and I even saw a couple of monkeys high in the trees. So worth the shock to the nervous system.

We boarded the van back to Monteverde and scheduled a night tour with Sergio, curious to see if his tour was more of a learning experience than the last one. What followed was one of the more harrowing, but thrilling, experiences we’ve had to date. Sergio led us out onto the reserve property armed with only flashlights, just as a drizzle had started. We found some tarantulas and various insects, as well as a few birds, but nothing much more exciting.The real action-packed part of the tour was how close we were to danger at every turn.

“I saw a wildcat here the other day,” Sergio said. “Just remember, you don’t have to be faster than a wildcat, Alexis. You just have to be faster than me and Brandon.”

As we walked along a progressively slippery mud path, about 2 feet wide: “If you fall, fall to the left. It’s about a half-mile drop before you reach anything down to the right.”

As he led us out onto a metal bridge with no guardrail at the end: “If you’re afraid of heights, don’t look down. Look in the trees, there are often snakes there.”

In addition to an Encyclopedic knowledge of animals and plantlife (truly amazing), Sergio was full of interesting stories. Married and divorced four times, five children, moved to every continent by the time he was 10 years old, bitten by everything from vipers to caterpillars (“I almost blacked out immediately”) and everything in between. The man was in a BBC documentary about army ants. He spent months walking 30km each night saving thousands of sea turtles. He bought a pound of weed for Depeche Mode. Sergio was the most fascinating creature we saw in the jungle, by leaps and bounds.

Back at the Lodge, Brandon asked me a very sobering question. “Do you think Sergio is a pathological liar?”

It was a valid question. I, too, had been wondering if Sergio was the true incarnation of The Most Interesting Man in the World or we were simply The Most Gullible. He seemed so knowledgable, though, and he was much more informed than our tour guide the night before. He knew everything from biology to astronomy, and thrived like Tarzan in the jungle (“I would rather be barefoot and shirtless; that’s typical of my tribe”). Frankly, I didn’t care if he was lying to me, but I honestly doubted he was.

Sergio offered to show us around the next day on a tour, trying to help me see my ultimate goal: monkeys. We liked him a lot and he knew his stuff, so we were eager to take him up on it. We picked Sergio up on the side of the road this morning, and as we pulled over so he could grab a snack at the grocery store before our trip, I said to Brandon, “You know, this is TEXTBOOK ‘Things you’re not supposed to do in a foreign country.'” Brandon said, “I know, but he’s like a park ranger guy.” Plus, I figured if he was going to take us somewhere and kill us, he could have done it a lot more easily on the cliff the night before.

Sergio took us to four different places, where we saw lots of bird and plantlife, he explained which plants were edible and had medicinal qualities, and told us all about the local culture. Apparently, for instance, some Quakers escaped the Korean War draft in 1950 by fleeing to Monteverde, since the army in Costa Rica was disbanded in 1948. The Quakers opened up the local cheese factory. A certain kind of anise plant grows near where they settled, and for decades, they drank it as tea, but this anise is only good if boiled and inhaled – otherwise, it could give you gastric cancer, so tens of them died this way after years of drinking the tea.

Sergio also told us stories about his life as well, from living on a remote beach in Nicaragua (where he met one of his wives, who basically washed up onshore in a boat that had gotten lost), to the week and a half he spent with Robin Williams saving sea turtles. (Apparently Robin Williams wanted a rustic type of vacation that was remote and away from gawkers. Success on that one.) Sergio also worked with Will and Jaden Smith on a movie recently, where he came out to clear the set of snakes before any filming happened. The stories were outlandish and seemingly unbelievable, but they all jived and nothing seemed out of character, and Brandon and I, against our better judgment, believe it all. He just knew too much to be lying to us.

We went to a hummingbird garden with Sergio, where Brandon got some great pictures, and we finished off the morning at what Sergio called his “Ace in the hole”: a place in the Children’s Rainforest that had A MILLION MONKEYS! If loving Sergio is wrong, I don’t want to be right, because as soon as we saw those monkeys, he high-fived me and took us to where they were all climbing around. Great footage there as well – of course.

We ended today with a coffee tour that included an illegal still and liquor tasting. SCORE! Tons of fun and more sloths involved. It’s been a packed adventure so far and I only hope it continues as well moving forward. It’s rainy here, but I question if I’ve ever been somewhere so beautiful, peaceful, and yet full of life. PURA VIDA!

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Getting Out of My Head

It’s a lazy Sunday afternoon, and I was thinking about what I wanted to tackle first on my bucket list. Some things are going to be more challenging than others, and I’m not quite ready to give up T.V. yet (addict)… but I can definitely write a letter.

I had a card that I thought was cute that featured an Alice lookalike on the cover, so I thought through my friend set with dogs. My mind settled on my friend Kali, who not only has dogs, but has had a lot going on recently and still finds time to be there for me when I need her. She’s someone with a good heart and great advice – she deserves a little pick-me-up in the mail.

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I realized in writing this how difficult it’s going to be to do this for a year – it’s not at all about the level of effort, it’s the awkward nature of explaining to someone why they’re getting a random note. But I’ll figure it out, and I’m only going to be writing to people who already know me as weird. So the perception is accurate.

So one item on the bucket list is 1/12 done… getting there slowly but surely. I look forward to chronicling the progress.

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A New Leaf

I’m always turning over leaves.

The one constant in my life over the last 10 years has been my husband; someone who recognizes my quirks, impatience, and constant need for change better than anyone. He’s stood by me through countless transformations, hobbies, interests, jobs, and emotions. And now he’ll see me through this one. I am a woman in motion.

I’m 26-and-a-half. Ish. It wasn’t long ago I thought that was ancient: one foot in the grave, or at least both feet depleted of youth. I rushed like a bullet to become an adult and skidded to a halt, terrified, as I reached home base. “Woah, there, buddy – I wasn’t ready for ‘late twenties.'”

I’m not a normal 20-something these days. Married, pets for children, homeowner, career woman. I’m regularly called “ma’am” – and not in a Southern way.  As someone who was always the youngest in her friend group, this is disconcerting. I feel like I’m losing a vital part of the youth experience. I straddle the dire desire to squeeze the last moments out of my carefree twenties and the things all my older friends are doing: having babies, nesting, moving to the ‘burbs. My ovaries are knocking but my brain isn’t responding. There’s so much still to DO.

And thus, my bucket list begins: 30 things I need to accomplish before 30. I write this list independent of children. For so long, I’ve looked at having babies as the end of my life: I can’t do it until I’m willing to sacrifice all semblance of myself. I have to stop looking at kids this way or I’ll either never have them or I’ll resent the ones I do have. Life should be richer with children, not over. So I’ll try to navigate my goals practically, but with the understanding that kids may come into the mix at some point, and that’s okay. Just not right now.

 

PHYSICAL AND MENTAL HEALTH

30. Climb a mountain.

Like, a real mountain. Think Rainier, not Stone Mountain. I want to train for it and see the world from a crazy high vantage point. I want to flip my perspective and accomplish the impossible.

29. Run a 10k.

I can barely run 5k these days. And this is some of the best shape I’ve ever been in. Time for an evolution.

28. Nail a handstand in yoga.

NAIL IT. Not get into a handstand – stick it, purely with core strength.

27. Get spiritual.

Find some peace with the Almighty. Even if it’s not a Christian peace.

 

EDUCATION

26. Learn a language.

I can’t expect to be fluent. Languages are challenging for me. But I’d like to speak some passable Spanish in a pinch.

25. Master a skill.

Knitting, basket weaving, welding, whatever. I want to be able to do something, capably, with my hands beyond typing on a keyboard.

24. Read some books that actually mean something.

Chick lit is a nice escape. The classics are important.

23. Develop some knowledge about cars.

Change a tire, learn how to change my own oil, and try to have a better understanding of when someone’s trying to rip me off.

 

TRAVEL

22. Visit Thailand.

I’ve always wanted to.

21. Take a trip with my Dad.

A love of traveling to foreign lands is something we’ve always shared. I want to take advantage of that while I can.

20. See a Wonder of the World.

I’ve seen the Colosseum. I’d like to see another Wonder, and maybe one of the Natural Wonders as well.

19. Take a cross-country road trip with Brandon.

I think it will be amazing what we learn about ourselves and each other.

 

LIFE CHANGES

18. Volunteer regularly somewhere for at least 6 months.

Mentor a kid, feed the homeless, live in someone else’s shoes.

17. Turn off the T.V. for a week.

It’s a crazy drug. I need to detox.

16. Finish my book.

I am sick at how long it has taken to finish writing my book. Get the fuck on it, Alexis.

 

MONEY MATTERS

15. Invest in 5 diversified stocks.

Doesn’t count retirement.

14. Build retirement fund.

I want to quadruple it by the time I’m 30, interest growth aside.

13. Own a second home.

A cabin to rent out, a place generating rental income, whatever.

 

EVOLVE MY RELATIONSHIPS

12. Get closer with my sister.

Enough said.

11. Go on a walk at least once a week with Brandon.

Even 10 minutes counts.

10. Try something more sexually adventurous than usual.

Let’s just caveat that I also mean “with Brandon” here.

9. Be a good in-law.

Remember every birthday, even when Brandon doesn’t!

8. Send a real letter to a friend every month for a year.

A postcard or an article from a magazine (Grandpa-style) – whatever it might be, everyone loves a handwritten note.

 

TEST MY LIMITS

7. Zip line.

6. Participate in a big cultural event like a music festival or Oktoberfest.

5. Swim with a shark. Or at least sting rays.

4. Learn to surf. Or at least try.

3. Be personally responsible for winning a big piece of business.

2. Perform in a play or musical.

 

PERSONAL SATISFACTION

1. Learn to be happy just as I am.